Inspired by a post I recently read on Doing the District, I decided to write my own opinions about DC men and dating initiative (or lack thereof). The 10 points on Doing the District’s post are spot on!
I know many of the women in DC can relate with me about guys often not taking initiative when it comes to dating! It’s frustrating for us. There are so many resources to find great date ideas, yet its the same old drinks/coffee/movie routine. Or, my favorite, the “You choose.” You choose? Really?! Just last weekend a guy told me he had no preference on a first date activity and that I should choose. After I chose, he told me he didn’t like my suggestion, without offering an alternative. It made me wonder if he was actually interested in going on the date with me or not. His apparent apathy made me decline to see him – indefinitely. Or “reschedule,” as I put it. No girl wants to feel like she has to convince someone to spend time with her. Nothing is more attractive than when a guy makes a specific plan for a date and then follows it through. Gives it 100%. It seems as though men here in DC do not approach dating the way they approach their careers. Careers in DC involve fighting to get to the top. Fighting to be seen. Fighting to do the best. Is it too much to ask that they put a little effort into taking a girl out on a date?
Museums in DC are free – that’s easy. There are a plethora of unique local spots to choose from – easy. There are free concerts nightly at the Kennedy Center – easy. Find LivingSocial or Groupon deals and go on a budget-friendly date – easy. Do a Google search for date ideas in DC – this is something I found.
Men, you have no excuse for not coming up with a creative date idea. Personally, I’m going to hold the men in DC to a higher standard if they want to spend time with me. If they clearly don’t put effort into a date or date idea, I will decline to see them and instead spend my time doing some of the amazing things DC has to offer by myself or with my friends. “You choose” attitude tells me that I’m not important enough to them to take a couple extra minutes to be creative. Be willing to give a girl a little bit of considerations, and you’ll have a better shot at hitting it off.
Tip: I just came across this post by HowAboutWe: “5 Great First Text Messages to Send After You Get Someone’s Number.” Find one of those texts (but not these!) that fits your style then ask her out on a real date that you have actually put thought into!